Foreplay in anal sex: Steps to do it right

In sex, anything goes—as long as it’s consensual. And among the many things we can enjoy, anal sex is one of them. It’s a way to explore intense sensations during intimate moments, often reserved for partners who share deep trust and closeness.

However, before engaging in anal sex, it’s essential to properly prepare the area. Unlike the vagina, which lubricates naturally when aroused, the anus needs external lubrication to prevent injury. It’s best to save this kind of encounter for moments when arousal is high and things are naturally building toward it.

Foreplay

Stimulating the area is crucial when it comes to anal sex, so you need to take your time with foreplay. Start slowly, exploring and stimulating the area bit by bit. A good approach is to caress, press, and kiss the buttocks. This area is responsive to touch and can help ease into the experience.

As the stimulation intensifies, your partner may begin to feel more comfortable with the idea of penetration and even start to desire it. But don’t rush in. Lubrication is key, and before moving forward, you should use a lubricant to properly prepare the area.

Using lubricant helps avoid friction and allows the anus to relax and open up. And don’t forget—this can also be part of the fun. Applying the lubricant can be a sensual act in itself. A few drops around the area combined with gentle fingering (well-lubricated, of course) can heighten both intensity and arousal.

The moment of truth

This helps the area relax, reduce resistance, and allows the person being stimulated to feel increasing pleasure and a growing desire to be penetrated. There’s no need to rush—let things flow at their own pace.

Once the area is ready, penetration can begin—gently and always with plenty of lubricant. Enter slowly, avoiding sudden movements, and allow the area to adapt naturally.

And one last important point: when you’re done, take a moment to visually check the area for any signs of irritation or minor injury caused during penetration. It’s usually nothing serious, but it’s worth making sure—especially after enjoying one of the most thrilling and arousing forms of intimate play.